Right now, millions of children are growing up in a world that doesn’t respect, support, or embrace who they inherently are.
These are children Debbie refers to as “differently wired”—the kids with neurodifferences such as ADHD, giftedness, autism, learning disorders, and anxiety, as well as those with no formal diagnosis, who are being told day in and day out that there is something wrong with them. And because their differences are for the most part invisible, these kids are stuck trying to fit into a world that wasn’t designed to accommodate their unique way of being.
Their challenges are many. But for the parents who love them, their challenges are just as hard. They’re the parents frequently fielding emails from frustrated teachers and dealing with glares when their children behave inappropriately in public. They’re the exhausted moms and dads pushed into nonstop advocacy mode, the ones whose kids people think twice about inviting to their child’s birthday party. They’re overwhelmed, misunderstood, and isolated, which is ironic considering their kids are in every classroom across the country. Debbie knows this because she is one of these parents.
DIFFERENTLY WIRED lays out a new vision for not only redefining the way neurodiversity is perceived in the world, but shifting the parenting paradigm so parents raising extraordinary kids can do so from a place of peace, joy, and most importantly, choice.
Each chapter in the book centers on one big tangible idea—or as Debbie calls them, “Tilts”—that will shift parents’ thinking and actions in a way that will change not only the family dynamic, but will allow for these unique children to fully realize their best selves. By making these shifts, parents everywhere will be rejecting what’s broken in the status quo. And that leads to moving the world closer to a place where difference is genuinely seen and valued.
What Thought Leaders Are Saying
Differently Wired will help parents of children who think differently to accept their child for who they are and facilitate their successful development.Temple Grandin, PhD
Raising a ‘differently wired’ kid can feel like venturing out in unfamiliar territory without a map or a guide. Debbie Reber is the friend you need to navigate this terrain — not just offering practical tips for parenting kids with autism, ADHD, dyslexia and other conditions, but helping you think about your child’s atypical mind in ways that will enable you to help them unlock their unique potential. This is a bracingly honest, beautifully written, and quietly groundbreaking book.Steve Silberman, author, "NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity"
Differently Wired is one mother’s clarion call for moving to action, based on a deep understanding of children who are neurodiverse, and therefore, who think, learn and at times, behave differently. Debbie Reber provides practical advice on a broad range of topics that will be a treasure trove for parents who are desperately seeking guidance in understanding and best supporting their neurodiverse child. This is a wonderfully engaging and much needed book that I will enthusiastically recommend to so many parents and professionals I meet on a regular basis.Dr. Barry Prizant, Barry M. Prizant, Ph.D., CCC-SLP Adjunct Professor, Brown University Author of Uniquely Human: A Different Way of Seeing Autism
Deborah Reber approaches the subject of raising a neurodiverse child with the diligence and depth of an investigative reporter and the passion (and compassion) of a parent-advocate, which she definitely is. This book offers parents a treasure trove of practical advice to help them advocate and navigate their personal journeys with their differently-wired kids along the often challenging road less traveled.Tom Ropelewski, filmmaker, "2e: Twice Exceptional" and "2e2: Teaching the Twice Exceptional"
Differently Wired offers an insightful, compassionate framework for empowering parents to rethink how they view neurodiverse learners. Building on the premise we should celebrate our children’s uniqueness instead of apologizing for it, Deborah Reber provides real tools and practical advice for parents to confidently support their child’s journey, not only at school but also at home and in life.Amanda Morin, Writer/Expert at Understood.org and author of "The Everything Parent's Guide to Special Education"
Differently Wired is a comprehensive and practical approach to parenting a unique and complex population of children. Twice-exceptional children present parents with a plethora of challenges (and joys) which the author addresses with gusto. There are other titles written on this topic, but this in particular, packs significant punch and is a ‘must read’ for all parents raising children with multiple exceptionalities.Dr. Michael Postma, EdD, interim director of SENG
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Prior to launching TiLT Parenting, Debbie authored a number of nonfiction and fiction books for young adults and women, including Doable: The Girl’s Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything, Language of Love, Chill: Stress Reducing Techniques for a More Balanced, Peaceful You, In Their Shoes: Extraordinary Women Describe Their Amazing Careers, the teen self-help series Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul: The Real Deal, and Run for Your Life: A Book for Beginning Women Runners. She also created and edited the first-ever series of teen-authored memoirs with HCI Books, Louder Than Words.